A: I danced with a lovely dancer but he kept hold of my hands between tracks and conversation was personal questions not the music etc.
B: Single girls rarely allow that in a BA milonga
A: I know that! I'm just obviously very bad at or out of practice (or both) at extricating myself when guys don't play by the rules.
B: Rules??? :) You're a long way from classes :)
A: I'm sorry but it's wrong for a guy to do that.
B: I don't doubt it. But that's different.
A: It's not just wrong, it's wrong and in public where everyone can see. A respectable guy doesn't do it.
B: Very few Argentine guys are respectable.
A: Why make it the girl's job not to allow it?
B: Because he's not respectable! :)
A: God I'm an idiot. It's not that I don't understand it, I find the exercise of it so difficult. I don't know why. I should be cross. But I am cross. When he's hanging on to my hands I feel half rabbit in the headlights & half just terribly uncomfortable. Something in me wants to save him, us - me, actually - face yet while I may just be trying to pretend it's all fine really, my tolerating it means I lose face publicly with every second.
In any case, possibly disreputable guys can be very nice to dance with I find.
B: There's the problem...
A: I thought you didn't believe in dancing with disrespectful guys.
But there was no answer to that. It was much later I realised that that might be because disrespectful and not respectable and disreputable are not all the same thing and 'B' will only point things out so far.
A: I was confused. I thought maybe I was mistaken about the cultural differences. Besides, when guys don't behave appropriately sometimes I freeze and am just terribly embarrassed. I just wanted to get back in to the dance where things were different. I will try to be a bit less mortified British. All my clear convictions seem to have abandoned me here.
I would never have let this happen in the UK.
B: There you go. I suspect all you need to overcome now is a language barrier.
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