"Why we are often confused about what it means to be “social”" - a different view.

This interesting post offers a solution to the confusion that can occur in the social environment of the milonga.  The solution is not uncontroversial. It requires you to accept the values of the writer. This person is no ordinary social dancer.  She is a performer and works in the business of selling tango dance classes.  In the article, the emphasis shifts between the observations of a social dancer and the observations of a person with the priorities of a businesswoman:

We all know what a skillful dancer looks like...and in a milonga we always immediately identify the “good” ones.

Many of us differ in what we think a skilful and attractive dancer looks like. Not everyone who likes this is going to like this.  They are hardly the same dance. I don’t think they are the same. My seven year old son whose experience of tango dancing is socially, said, when he saw the first clip,  “That's not tango.  That's....that's....a kind of tango dance....with feet".  The music also suggests that the dances are quite different.

Youtube is full of them

...and there is a lot of rubbish on Youtube.

complaining to the organisers while they are working: all this is a disruptive behaviour that negatively affects the atmosphere.

Complaining to the organiser can be very useful - when for example there is a crowd huddled at the back of the room to get away from the painfully loud noise of the speakers at the front.  I’m fairly sure organisers would prefer to fix the situation than have people leave and spread the word.  I know I would. This happened earlier this year at a large venue and the volume came down to bearable as a result.

if a community wants to cultivate a higher level of dancing, advanced dancers should be free to dance with whomever they want to without being judged or otherwise pressured, so that they can inspire others to progress.

I agree with the idea that people should be free to accept or reject invitations to dance and that all dances that accepted should be through a real desire to dance and not through imposition/guilt at refusal.

As to “advanced” and a “higher level of dancing”, again not everyone sees these in the same way. If, say, you aspire to perform or even just do elaborate figures or fancy things with your feet, that’s one thing.  If you enjoy the pleasure of embrace and connection within the social dance, that’s a different thing. It also depends whether you see tango dancing as intrinsically about ambition and progress and technique exercises or whether that stems from something else.  Even within social dancing, there are experienced dancers with completely different styles, emphases and priorities so quite what "advanced" means starts to look a lot less clear cut.

As for inspiration, that takes many forms in a milonga as in life, and far from all of it is down to that problematic term “a higher level of dancing”.

Being too generous has a downside. It is often this “being just out of reach” of a certain desirable dancer that pushes us to grow.

Really?  Alternatively, there is the idea that understanding, empathy, encouragement and patience is at least a more pleasant environment in which to develop.

If you want generosity, first go and give it. The simplest way is to find a dancer you would normally reject and dance with him or her WITH A GENUINE DESIRE to be generous.

Except you wouldn’t dance with someone out of generosity. You would do that only if you were going to be patronising. You dance with people because you want to.