Reaching out Derry / Londonderry, Kenneth Allen |
Everywhere I go, milongas, social events, music events, even latin fiestas with famously sociable latinos, I usually talk to strangers first. Like most people everywhere Latin American people will not necessarily reach out to you first either. Nearly everyone, everywhere, waits to be reached out to. That's one reason new people sit, not talking and feeling uncomfortable in milongas.
I nearly never regret it and never yet with people from Latin America. Most people are delighted to chat, but most people will not initiate conversation. At a fiesta at the weekend I struck up conversation with an Argentinian / Colombian couple, a Scottish woman on her own with whom I shared my tres leches dessert, an Ecuadorian dancer, a Colombian guy with a Saudi girlfriend, a young Colombian guy on his own, a Uruguayan woman and her Venezuelan partner, the Dominican ladies serving food.
I also met a few people I knew and introduced all the Colombians to each other. They called me the networker. After a while one of the organisers came to chat.
¿Cómo se enteró del evento?- Había asistido al evento anterior.
This time though I was now about the only unpartnered non-american person present.
- ¿Lo está disfrutando?-
- Claro. Llevo aquí ya cuatro horas!
I was a paying customer, but nevertheless you say, Gracias, por darme la bienvenida.
- No, por supuesto. ¿Qué le había pasado a la mujer escocesa?
- Ah, se fue. Quería tomar algo. Encontró los intervalos entre las presentaciones demasiado largos. No se había dado cuenta de que no eran tanto intervalos, sino oportunidades para charlar.
- Exactamente, así es.
- Tampoco hablaba español.
- Ah, sí, entonces, claro, es más complicado.
She also didn't initiate conversation but then not everyone wants to.
Later, to my delight, it wasn't me doing the reaching out. A Dominican guy struck up conversation. ¿Cómo aprendió a hablar español? ¿Cómo se enteró del evento? ¿Puedo presentar al presidente de la asociación?
- ¡Mucho gusto!- Encantada. Es un placer estar aquí con ustedes.
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